The most important thing in life is Love - from the day you are born, everything starts with Love. From the first time your parents lay eyes on you, to the deep glance your partner gives you during your last breathe. It's all Love.
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. - 1 Peter 4:8
Let all that you do be done with love. - 1 Corinthians 16:14
He asked me years back, if I would still love him if he was crippled, his face distorted.
For centuries, countless rules have been applied to Love - how you should love, how you should not love.
People apply social norms & unspoken general rules for the definition & act of Love.
Then everyone sets own conditions for their version of Love.
It requires right timing, right person, right place. Man should love woman more than woman loves man. Love can turn to hate & vengeance; love can be deteriorating. Love knows no boundaries & some can commit crime for their loved ones. Some found themselves in love, some lost themselves in love.
Some can tolerate their husband to have few wives, but never the way around.
Love is never unconditional except the love for your kids. You will do anything for your kids but not expecting anything in return.
Sometimes, things need to happen for you to realise your true feelings. Sometimes, it takes time. Sometimes, it's too late.
I didn't know how to love before, I know it means I didn't love the person enough.
I realised my version of love is patient, tolerating & forgiving. I thought if I love the person enough, he will know through all my big & small acts. Unfortunately that's not the case.
I thought, though I am not happy with him, as long as I love him, I will tolerate his flaws too, so it's okay. I will accept him for who he is, I will not complain. As long as he stays loyal to me, as long as his heart is still with me, that's enough. But that's not the case.
So, we love the wrong way. We love in different ways. Then you realise, Love actually can die.
Love these days won't last, it's not like during our parents' generation. So, the definition of love changes through generation. It's just ridiculous. What are wedding vows for? What are marriage promises for?
No more such thing as growing old together. So, am I the naïve one for still believing in this?
People our generation don't fix things, we just throw things away.
Then, the person being left behind will stop believing in Love. So, we start to go against nature, that we humans don't need companion. We will change our definition of Love again, that we will just love our own selves. That will do.
So, what should I believe now? What kind of Love should I hold on to now? So I won't get hurt anymore.
Lastly, would like to share one of my favourite quotes from one of my favourite authors -
Dance like nobody's watching; Love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth. - Mark Twain
So, what do you want from Love?
1 comments:
喵，很抱歉我们失联了很长一段时间。很抱歉在你发生这么大件事的时候我却不在你身边。太心疼了。抱歉我比起聊电话更习惯面对面聊天，或用文字关心。
不知道你几时会看到留言，希望你一切都好，真的。然后，喵，我很想你，很想很想。
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